I came to ask this question after the recent break-up with my latest boyfriend. I thought I would be married this year after a year and 10 months of going steady.
Actually, I got the first proposal eventually after 3 months we became a couple. I thought it was too early so I told my boyfriend its not yet time. However, I encouraged i told him that we need to get to know each other better and strive to communicate constantly despite the distance as he will be working back as a seaman. Our arrangement work quite well and I tried to understand that there are times it would be after a three weeks to one month before I could hear any news from him since they are out of communication signal.
After nine months, we finally see with each other again. Then came the second proposal. This time the reason was not because I'm not ready but because my elder brother is getting married. He (my brother) would get a high priority since he is older than me and as tradition dictates marriage should come according by birth rank. So bad to follow such rule but we have to conform because our grandmother and mother are too rigid about it. I tried to bargain if we could have a double wedding but still did not work. Since I am the younger then I have to give way.
Finally, we set the date for our marriage. Before he went back to work we agreed to have our wedding on this year, 2011. However, things turn out not as I had expected. It was his birthday that he told me he had something to tell me on the day that we will meet. I tried to probe and learned that he wanted to broke up with me. It was a devastating for me. So true and was confirmed when we meet three days after. He had his reasons that I tend not to believed.
Actually, I got the first proposal eventually after 3 months we became a couple. I thought it was too early so I told my boyfriend its not yet time. However, I encouraged i told him that we need to get to know each other better and strive to communicate constantly despite the distance as he will be working back as a seaman. Our arrangement work quite well and I tried to understand that there are times it would be after a three weeks to one month before I could hear any news from him since they are out of communication signal.
After nine months, we finally see with each other again. Then came the second proposal. This time the reason was not because I'm not ready but because my elder brother is getting married. He (my brother) would get a high priority since he is older than me and as tradition dictates marriage should come according by birth rank. So bad to follow such rule but we have to conform because our grandmother and mother are too rigid about it. I tried to bargain if we could have a double wedding but still did not work. Since I am the younger then I have to give way.
Finally, we set the date for our marriage. Before he went back to work we agreed to have our wedding on this year, 2011. However, things turn out not as I had expected. It was his birthday that he told me he had something to tell me on the day that we will meet. I tried to probe and learned that he wanted to broke up with me. It was a devastating for me. So true and was confirmed when we meet three days after. He had his reasons that I tend not to believed.
